Hayley was so tentative about talking to her birthdad on Father’s Day. I finally got her to be ok with calling him later in the evening but no one answered. She just doesn’t know him well and I honestly think that topic is one of the things she is bouncing around in her mind - just who is this guy and how do I place him in my world?
The man she thought of as her father when she was young abused her. It took her a long time to really bond with Jeff as a ‘father’ and know she is. And we are both fine with her birthdad having a role in her life and he seems to want to do that but we’ve really yet to move forward. He’s taking some steps but they are few and far between. His family seems more interested in keeping in touch. I don’t want to turn this into something mean spirited or bash him at all, I’m just being honest. I’ve opened the door and Hayley has been willing to try but it can’t be on us. I know this isn’t easy for him and I know it is harder for men to relate to reaching out. I hope he can, for both of their sakes.
